Fear knocked on the door…


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Barbarous acts of terrorism, including recent events in Paris, have fed a perception of Muslims as killers in the name of God. I have wanted to respond, so many times, to blogs, tweets, Facebook posts etc. to correct and educate, … Continue reading

A letter. Never sent, never read


My Dear Friend,

I was shocked to hear your awful news. It’s been a few days now but I still can’t believe it.
I don’t understand. I have questions – so many. Mostly they begin with why? and then, how? How could you do this when you went to such lengths to care for others? I don’t understand where you got that kind of strength and resolve. Did you save it all up, hoarding a secret reserve? Then I wonder if you gave too much? Did we take too much leaving you nothing? Tell me honestly.

The grief comes in unpredictable waves punctuated by all the lovely memories of you. They’re all lovely, I’ve tried to think of something bad but there really are none. One in a million weren’t you my sweet. Your humour so dead pan – dry as the dessert. I’d be howling! Crying! But you, Mr Straight face, wouldn’t flinch. You laughed with your eyes. I remember your deep caramel voice with a smidge of huskiness thrown in. Using words like ‘toptastic’ and ‘chortle’ without a hint of irony. I suggested you should be on the radio. You told me you had a face for the radio – you could never take a compliment. I found a couple of mix tapes you made for me and remembered your love of music. You picked up music from wherever you travelled – you were always away having adventures. I called you Mr Claypole from Rentaghost.

I remember when you stepped in and ‘had a word’ when that idiot from art school got weird and too friendly. How I embarrassed you by asking for a signature on my copy of The Guardians of Time. You put my cat, Jinx, in it and apologised for making him a girl. Our shared love of New York – my suggestion that you get a cat and call her Madison – you got a metal ornament made of nuts and springs – I mocked you and rolled my eyes. My gentle, jovial friend with the giant, beautiful heart. Are you blushing yet?

I’ll have more memories by the end of today. After. We’ll sit and remember you together with the love and deep respect we have always had for you.

Then I start filling in the memories with fantasies – otherwise known as the ‘if only’s’. An imaginary time machine. If only:
– I’d called
– Said the right thing
– Let you know how important you are
– How proud I am of your achievements

I’d introduce you as my published writer friend and we’d laugh at how we discussed our respective book ideas so long ago. You wrote your books, published them and managed your own book tour while I was still thinking about it! You’d be embarrassed by the attention but feel needed – maybe.

I would go to a time before that day and tell you how much I missed you – I really have. I would plan a visit with my children and you’d have to stay. You’d never let us down so you’d stay and keep your word because that’s what you did. We’d come and tell you how you fill a Chris sized space perfectly in our lives and you’d smile with your eyes and deflect the compliment with a bit of self deprecation…

Would that have stopped you? Am I placing too much importance on my word?
Who am I that I could make that difference to you? I don’t know but I should have known. I should have tried.

I’m so sorry my friend. I’m sorry I wasn’t there for you. I left you too long. I know you felt everything but I assumed too much. The most costly mistake. I’ve been to dark places and found my way back – I could have shown you the way. You reached out. I patted your hand and gave it a squeeze. I should have known better. I should have taken your face in my hands and told you… I’m back at the time machine.

I say prayers. I pray angels take you by the hand and show you peace. That you are better now and the light of the sun warms the chill from your bones.
I pray you find heaven.
I pray for forgiveness.

I want you to know that I’m thankful for you – always giving but reluctant to take. I feel honoured to have known your kind heart; your generosity of time and thought, your gentle soul. Thankful that you touched my life but I didn’t tell you that, I just assumed you knew – how absurd!

I want you back – like the brattish child asking for the impossible. Is my sadness at the loss of you more than the sadness you felt? The anguish you felt so strongly you took yourself away? Can you see us now? Do you see how much you meant? Would you have still gone? I wonder how much we can suffer before the need to take action? What are our limits? What I wouldn’t give…?

My dear friend I miss you so much.
Maybe you could visit me in a dream?
Come soon. K?




My heart, all of a patter and a pitter…

I set up this blog to empty my head. The hope was to deal with life and the mountain of related musings, stress and worries by chucking it out at you – dear readers. Better out than in! etc. I could purge myself of mind clogging issues and share them. The advice and feedback have been incredibly helpful and insightful – though most are unpublished.

It’s been such a long time since my last post that I thought it was time for a minor update – very minor. There is no picture to go with this blog… yet, I’m not sure how I feel about a ‘no picture’ situation, am I leaving the house without my phone? If it feels too much like I’ve forgotten a child I’ll stick one in, appropriate and relevant to this blurb of course!

The story is nearly finished. Nearly. (It’s been ‘nearly’ for a while now). I’m at the end section of the story arc but realised there are a couple of holes that need filling and – like peeling paint – I couldn’t leave them alone. I’ve been away from the blog because I’ve been writing the book! (I get two days per week for writing – sometimes more, sometimes less. My time is more easily sacrificed…)

The word count is massive. Big. Too big. It has been remarked that I might have material that could go into the second book. The rather clever and insightful (Mez Packer) made that suggestion without reading a word. She’s spot on. I’m unravelling the end section after moving two major events and the story will be better for it. The two blocks of information will now go into book two which will add a little more suspense to book one without affecting the storyline. Feels good.

I’m sitting in my little studio trying to get back into the swing of the book after a four week break. No nightmares this time but there is definitely an itch that needs scratching. Time, as usual, is against me. The children’s summer holidays are looming – I have a month. Wonder if I can finish in that time?


I’ve set myself deadlines before and run way WAY past them. So, no promises but the end is near. I’ll be finished when I’ve written the story I would want to read and I’m excited to be in this position. It’s been a tough old road but I’m not at the end yet. When I look back at where I’ve been and then forward to where I want to be, I know that the only person who can get me there is me.

“Go back?” he thought. “No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!” So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter.” 

J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit

I thought about lots of images but I’m starving and my tummy won’t allow my brain to engage in thoughts of a non food nature. My imagined road is lined with a rather delicious looking avocado and king prawn salad… See!

Painful Reality and a Publishing Dream


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My friends and family know that I am dedicated to my book and how passionate I am about my work. They keep a vigilant eye out for literary tidbits that might further my writing as well as asking poignant questions … Continue reading

Mumsnet Blogfest 2014


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My day did not start well – I was up before dawn and had no coffee for the next THREE hours. I pounded cobbled streets in heels dragging an overnight bag and arrived at Mumsnet Blogfest a hot and bothered … Continue reading

My vacation with the bad man


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WordPress send out a new year report so you can track activity on your blog over 12 months. It seems I’ve been a pretty inconsistent blogger posting only once a month for the last half of 2013. This is not … Continue reading

Tick, tock says the clock


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I took part in my first ever event as a writer last week with two published authors – John Costello and Joseph D’Lacey. I had great support at The Leamington Literary Salon from friends and valuable encouragement from John and … Continue reading